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Coercion for sex can be rape, but where coercion starts and ends is a gray area and should be looked at by legal professionals, not a random person claiming victimhood based on their personal opinion. "have sex with me or I'll leave/cheat on you" can be emotional blackmail, whether it's said by a man or a woman. Women do that too and it's manipulative and abusive. It's very different from addressing issues in the relationship, like withholding sex or not having enough for your partners preferences. "Have sex with me or I will fire you" is less of a gray area than “have sex with me or I’ll not hire you” given a boss and an employee have a power dynamic and this is clearly a threat based on personal choices that have nothing to do with the job. Basically if you can't say no or there's something being held over your head it's coercion, if you can say no and it's respected (like Lucy Craig) it's not rape. If consent isn't freely given it's not consent, if it's a transaction or you can refuse it's consent.